A three a day GOOD MORNING!!! to you all! Yup, hitting the jits hard to get my wind back. Two sessions yesterday and another some 7 hours later almost makes a three a day. Still, exhausting and, yes, I am addicted!
What Would You Do Wednesday Ed-vise today. Cause it’s WEDNESDAY! And I do love WEDNESDAYS!
I’ve said before and I’ll say it again: I do love Tik Tok! I’ll admit it. I’m not ashamed!
One of the pages I like has to do with the “Karens” going wild. Basically these are videos recorded of people (not just women) getting pushed to a point where they just blow up. They then start yelling and screaming at everyone around or fighting or smashing stuff.
For me, it might sound weird, I really do enjoy the violent explosion of emotion. Just something about the resort to primitive expression and lower brain functions that fascinates me. People losing their “Lotus of Control” in public on whatever person they believe wronged them.
Now, the initial exchange catches the attention first thing. For all of us. Then, I like to look at the background to observe how people are reacting. Are they positioning themselves for a really violent exchange. Are they casually watching. Are they watching like it’s a movie playing out before them. Do they adjust their body so they can either engage the violent actor or run.
In one video a woman gets overly intoxicated. Begins getting hostile toward the waitstaff then starts becoming violent. The restaurant seems full with patrons. As the video progresses and the manager (I think) deals with the patron, NOBODY moves. I see this as a common theme in these videos. Nobody doing anything.
So, pick any of these “Karen” episodes and ask What Would You Do in any given one. Would you engage, record, or sit by and watch the show. No wrong answers on this test. Just answers.
Staying out of the way might be the appropriate response. Especially if it is a domestic dispute. Just ask cops how much they enjoy going to domestic violence disturbances. They hate them.
Recording is an option. Great for evidence. Also let’s the perpetrator know that people are watching. Even if they say “I don’t give a F#$K!” I guarantee they are holding back based on the fact they are being watched.
Engaging the person(s). Also a solution. It’s OK to talk to the person calmly. In a manner to de-escalate the situation. Offer solutions. Tell them your name and ask for theirs. They are less likely to attack you once they know you.
Once the show is over, then what? Do you commend the employee that just endured the wrath of a person that felt slighted because their drink was weak or their order took too long? Tell them “NICE JOB handling that!” It goes a long way with an employee. Especially since the owner probably won’t say anything to the employee. Be human and check in on them. It might just make their day/ evening.
I’m just saying
That’s it for today. Take care of yourselves. Check in on each other and remember baguettes in a cage are…BREAD IN CAPTIVITY! HAHAHAHHAHA…mmmm bread!
Peace
Ed-vise 