A bit of a heavy hearted GOOD MORNING!!! to you all! Yup, Pops passed away. He crossed the Rainbow Bridge to Valhalla this past Friday afternoon. One of the best men I have had the privilege of knowing and the honor of being his son.
Monday Musings Ed-vise today. Cause it’s MONDAY! Time to GET AFTER IT!
Well, I’m headed home today. Couple things to tie up then getting on the plane headed north. Can’t wait to get home to MY family.
Yesterday I “White Boarded” the different things that need to happen in order for mom to get all this behind her.
Financials, legal, government services, funeral arrangements. All kinds of stuff that you’d think wouldn’t be necessary. I mean why can’t this simply be a one stop thing and you move on.
Mom will have to process all kinds of insurance policies, get Power of Attorneys recognized along with figure out what money will be coming in to support her. Add to that a visit to the funeral home today where they will present us with three different choices of how to deal with Pops. Funeral, memorial, headstone, cremation, yada yada yada.
You can imagine for a recently widowed person, this can really be quite a lot to think about. In California, you can’t just dig a hole in the backyard and put them in it. California law requires a casket at minimum.
And that has been what I have been Musing on this weekend.
As an attorney, I get a little frustrated with the law firm that Pops used for their trust. They basically wrote up the trust and sent him on his way. Three thousand dollars worth of flat fee estate planning services. We told them Pops was on the decline. They didn’t really do much or say much. “Sorry to hear that” was the response.
My Ed-vise on this would have to be that for three grand, you could at least send some flowers.
But, I digress.
Thing is, an estate planning attorney should know all that crap that clutters the mind of the grieving. No person grieving the loss of a loved one should also have to deal with all the other issues alone. It simply feels wrong and I’m calling it out.
When I return home, I have an estate that I am working with. They are a young family but they will know all the things to plan for when the end comes around. Why? Because I will be their estate planning attorney with a different mindset.
I’m just saying
That’s it for today. Take care of yourselves. Check in on each other and remember taking the shell off a snail will not make them faster. It makes them…SLUGGISH!!! HAHAHAHHAHAHA…sluggish (tear).
Peace
Ed-vise 