A forgetful GOOD MORNING!!! to you all! Realized on this morning’s Forward Ambulation that I had not posted any Ed-vise for you all yesterday. How did you all survive without my tidbit of wisdom?
What Would You Do Wednesday Ed-vise today. Cause I do love WEDNESDAY!!!
For those that follow me, you know I am a lawyer.
Yesterday, I had court. Family law thing.
As I walked up the stairs to the floor that our trial was set for, I noticed the signs on various doors. “Victim’s Advocacy.” “Protective Room” that was highly secured. I began to reflect on the emotions involved in a legal dispute especially around children and being a parent.
The courts anchor their thinking in family law matters to “Best Interest of the Child.” This allows the judge to deal with the extreme emotions of the parents as they tear at each other to attempt to obtain custody (that is power) over how the child is raised. Both think they have the best interest of the child in mind.
Then comes the money for child support. The person that ends up paying rarely wants to write out a check to the other person for straight up cash. It’s hard to just give someone money and you don’t see a direct result. However, you have to think, Best Interest of the Child.
So, here is the scenario for a parent in that type situation: What Would You Do if a person came to you and offered you to name your money price and they would guarantee the Best Interest of the child? You would have no contact with the child until they were an adult. You would receive videos of their progress, letters, reports, even live feeds. But you could not provide any influence in their development.
Would you take the deal?
Guaranteed Best Interest of the child.
The child would develop into the best…whatever. Athlete, doctor, lawyer (gotta love them lawyers), actor, whatever they aspired to.
Physically, emotionally, psychologically, etc.
Just not with you or your input.
Would you take the deal?
If not, then ask, “do you have the Best Interest of the child in mind?”
Your financial situation might be such that you are barely making ends meet. Unsure of where to do or how to do it. We have no real training on how to raise a kid. Especially raise one to an elite level. Yet, the deal would guarantee an elite level for that child.
Maybe one should explore what really is Best Interest of the child and find out whose opinion makes up the Best Interest.
I’m just saying
That’s it for today. Take care of yourselves. Check in on each other and remember a Ginger that does martial arts is NOT a CARROT-Y KID! Shameful!
Peace
Ed-vise 